Don’t Ever Settle For Crumbs

You’re worth the whole damn cake and more. No one sets out looking for crumbs. In love. In life. In friendships. At work. But somehow, even the most intelligent people (who know their worth, no less!) find themselves waist-deep in situations where they’re inadvertently accepting mere morsels of time, attention, love, money, whatever it is.

Break Free From Vicious Cycles

There’s an image that gives me the creeps — that feeling you get when you think something’s crawling on you, or a torturous itch you can’t scratch. It’s the mental image of myself standing in the same spot, holding a ball and chain much like the one used in the hammer throw, using centrifugal force to keep the ball and chain in the air, circling on its own orbit. I feel stuck, unable to get out of position for fear of disrupting the circular path, therefore forced to actively keep spinning without leaving the exact same spot.

Permission To Course-Correct

Yes, you have permission. You’ve always had permission. Our whole lives, social constructs and institutions put so much pressure on us to get life right the first time around. And when we don’t get it right—as humans are prone to mistakes and bad judgment—we know in our heads that we have the choice to course-correct, but most people don’t dare. And when we do dare, we go through this whole internal crisis.

“Divorce? Lost Your Job? Congratulations!”

So are you going through a rupture in life? Divorce? Job loss? Serious health condition? I echo what Gabriel Bernstein said: Congratulations. You’ve been given a fresh start, a clean slate, a chance to change your life any way you want, to dream again, to grab all the new possibilities that this rupture brings. I congratulate myself, too.

Living Life On My Own Terms

Unlike others who may already have the benefit of hindsight, it’s a story I’m still in the middle of living. The path is still blurry, I’m still seeking clarity. I will eventually join the ranks of those fortunate enough to now have 20/20 vision. Nothing lasts forever, not even tough times. This is the story of my journey of learning to trust and let go.